Cheek Encounters: Pegging, Power Play & Art of Receiving

As a self proclaimed Peach Play Purveyor, I’m not shy about it: I love butts. Obsessed, even.

I love touching them, talking about them, teasing them, and yes—pegging them.

There’s something deeply personal and erotic about that moment when someone lets you in—truly in—to a part of themselves that society tells them is off-limits, dirty, or taboo. And when it comes to men? Even more so.

Pegging, for me, is sacred. It’s not just about flipping roles or holding the strap. It’s about the emotional and physical art of receiving—and the power exchange that makes it so potent.

As pegging becomes more mainstream, more people are curious… but they’re diving in without real knowledge or guidance. That often leads to discomfort, disappointment, or a flat-out bad first time. And that’s a shame, because when done with care, pegging can be healing, erotic and super intimate.

This guide is a mix of real talk, sacred kink, and practical education—because the peach deserves nothing less.

What Even Is Pegging?

Pegging is when one partner penetrates another anally with a strap-on, typically femme-to-masc. It can also occur in queer, nonbinary, and femme/femme dynamics (sometimes called strapping or just strap-on play). The roles, genders, and power dynamics vary—but the act itself is rooted in vulnerability, curiosity, and trust.

What makes pegging different than just anal?

The strap-on creates a different power dynamic. You’re not just penetrating—you’re leading, holding, and guiding. There’s a role reversal element that can feel deeply erotic for both partners. It’s not just physical—it’s energetic.

Why I Love Pegging

As someone who often shows up as more submissive in masculine dynamics, pegging is a beautiful moment where I get to take the lead. But I’m not doing it to dominate out of ego—I do it to worship.

There’s something profound about watching a man receive—especially in a culture that tells men to perform, control, and suppress pleasure. When I peg a man, I’m not humiliating him. I’m celebrating him. I’m showing him a level of trust and connection that lives beyond the surface of traditional sex roles.

I’ve introduced pegging to many lovers. Some were curious. Some were unsure. But the ones who surrendered fully? They unlocked a kind of pleasure that changed them—and it deepened our connection in a way that still stays with me.

Before You Peg: The Ritual of Readiness

Preparation is everything. This is where most people mess it up.

Talk First

• Set boundaries

• Share curiosities and fears

• Discuss safe words or check-ins

• Talk about aftercare needs

Pegging is intimate. It should never be rushed or assumed. Emotional safety is just as important as physical comfort.

Let Them Choose the Toy

This is one of my favorite tips for first-timers: let your partner choose the dildo.

It gives them agency, helps them get familiar with it, and builds anticipation. It also removes a layer of intimidation.

Prep the Peach

The anus isn’t like the vagina—it doesn’t self-lubricate, and it doesn’t open on command. It needs teasing, warmth, and lots of love.

• Massage the cheeks

• Use your tongue or fingers (yes, rimming counts!)

• Introduce a plug if needed

• Use. The. Fucking. Lube. (Please, for the love of God)

Water-based or silicone lube is your best friend. You want everything drenched. Not slick? Not ready.

During Pegging: Presence Over Performance

Pegging isn’t about “nailing it”—it’s about feeling it. Once you start, keep these in mind:

• Go slow. The first thrust is not a thrust—it’s a breath.

• Use your hips. Lead with rhythm, not force.

• Check in. Ask how they’re doing, especially if they’re new.

• Mix in sensuality. Stroke their back, grab their thighs, talk to them, tell them how good they’re doing.

Think of it like a dance. You’re leading with care, not just pushing with purpose.

Aftercare: The Integration

After pegging, your partner might feel:

• Euphoric

• Vulnerable

• Emotional

• A little raw (physically or energetically)

This is normal. Pegging opens more than just the body—it can open parts of the psyche and nervous system. Aftercare is essential.

• Cuddle

• Offer water or a snack

• Reaffirm safety and connection

• Let them land in their body again

Cheeky Truth: Receiving Is Power

There’s nothing weak about surrender.

There’s nothing shameful about bending over.

Receiving takes courage—and when someone lets you in, it’s not just sex. It’s ceremony.

Pegging is not just something I do for fun (though it is fun).

It’s something I do with intention, curiosity, and reverence.

It’s peach worship in its purest form.

Final Thoughts

Whether you’re the one wearing the strap or the one opening up to receive, pegging is a deeply intimate act that deserves time, care, and presence. It’s not about “doing anal”—it’s about creating an experience that can expand your understanding of pleasure, connection, and power.

So go slow. Talk lots. Use more lube than you think you need.

And above all… have fun exploring the forbidden peach.

Affirmations :

My body is worthy of new pleasures. I honor trust, curiosity, and connection. I hold power with care—and I receive with pride.